Thursday, August 11, 2011

When to ask for help...

Hey everybody!
This has been a long few weeks for me and miss. I can't get right hurt her back on Sunday.  So I've been out of commission for a little less than a week now.  But this post isn't about my back or weight loss; it's actually a personal post about when to seek intervention. 
As you all know, I'm in a relationship with the love of my life and we have had our share of ups and downs, and after 11 years we still have the strength to keep going on this trip called 'love' together.

In 2009, we decided that we could actually be friends and stop bickering, for a change.  In 2010, we then decided that we would try this love thing again.  I was happy because after all, he was my soul mate.  I mean, we could joke together, laugh, play, be serious, have thought-provoking conversations...the list goes on and on!  I was ecstatic that we were back in each other's lives.  But as time went on, there were series of events that made us both question the decision to get back together.  We tried to put things in the past, let go, release tension and anger; but to no avail, it was a harder task than anticipated.  There always seemed to be a dark cloud following us and no matter how happy we wanted to be, it just seemed like we kept getting knocked back down. 

I must admit, I'm not innocent in this at all and neither is he.  Our communication is at a very low point, and that's something I NEVER wanted to experience.  I'd always hoped and imagine that good or bad we could at least communicate effectively to work through our problems.  After having the same discussions, over and over, I've decided to seek an intervention from an outside source....
Couples Counseling...

I know that Brian is not opposed to going, I'm just afraid that we will get there and he won't open up and take the counseling seriously in order for us to get moving in the right direction.  I really love this man, and the good times greatly out weigh the bad times, but in order to have more good times without this cloud, I think counseling would be best.

1 comment:

  1. We've seeked couples counseling as well but the first guy was creepy and then after that we couldn't find anyone who takes our insurance AND had openings....I guess there's no such thing as a waiting list for counseling as you never know when an opening will come along.

    We also found it hard to find someone to watch our daughter on a regular basis the same time each week.

    Hope it works out for you guys I think it will.


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